In life’s diplomacy lessons the fact that power does not rest on ‘might’ alone and that anger has consequences needs to be absorbed and apart of the transitional diplomats psychic.
The child explained here is a child that chronically is young [ say eighteen months] but has an adult concept of the world in some things. Many Cervantes and High Functioning Autistic are such.
A child does something that seems so funny [given the circumstances] another person reacts in what may appear an inappropriate way. Simultaneously laughter at these circumstances erupts from that person. With that bad timing the child thinks that person is laughing at their pain. That pain is internalized. A common trait with people on the Autistic Spectrum is their brain really does not forget.
Years later the held pain within has festered like a boil. Erupting into small hate hurt driven reactions. Often seen by others as petty jealousies leading into spitefulness. A left field reaction, not understood by the person, nor the child themselves. The original pain has covered the ‘hurt’ with extreme behavior management adaption. Maybe the child has taken on characteristics of the person, or persons, who rescued them from their physical hurt. Giving them a hug or a kind word. Or entrapping the child in a thought or action that is quietly in extreme and the child will constantly go to that person for reassurance that all is well in their world.
Diplomacy lessons between adults
The second scenario is that you receive something that upsets you. You share that something with a third party. In this case the now chronologically grown child from the above case. This information throws the third party into an extreme reaction state.
Even when the sequence of events is now sorted out by the first party so that the current sequence of events now makes sense. The first party explains. The reactions and chain of events is by far is in extreme mode. The third party is not going to be backing down. The first party just does not understand the reaction. Explanations of the lead up to the explosion are not helping the situation.
Stop right there. It is time for an apology. A heart felt apology. The challenge is that all parties in the above example [ persons one, two and three] may be on the Autism Spectrum. Until the situation is broken down and analysed things are probability at firery stand still. Step aside from the situation. Behavior management of recognizing there is a situation has arisen. Next being able to lower the confusion from both sides .Bending the present, the past and the possible mutual outcomes.
Explosive situations through the old hurt coming to the surface on one side may have triggered a reaction from both parties. Both parties having something to sort out in the current time that is affected through the past interactions possibly as the child in the above example [person two]. Even if it is the recognition that a heart felt apology is due for something someone else years ago instigated.
In itself an Apology opens the door to healing. Both parties may then builds a bridge over the troubled waters. Allowing for both, or either party, to walk towards the co-joining section and onto a mutual co-shared bridge, at their own speed and in their own way. In Australia this is the pathway Towards Reconciliation education and learning activities.
Diplomacy lessons learned means that a diplomat can ‘see’ what cannot be seen. Kevin Rudd is known for his diplomacy lessons to the world in general. When holding office in Australian Prime Minister Kevin Rudd, apologized to the Original Inhabitants of Australia for the hurt done to them and their forbears for the time past. This important date was February 13th, 2008. Using the example of people representing persons four and five different communities.
The Australian government gave to the original inhabitants of Australia the “Sorry” that was deserved. There was a lot of lead up through this time and until and past the actual Parliamentary Sorry was given. Accepted by the original inhabitants as this simple word was from the “heart”.
Sorry allowed for further healing to begin between persons four and five. This heart felt apology was over a decade ago. One result is the National Sorry Day of May 26th where people may choose to come together on a pathway towards reconciliation.
The depth of healing has had many challenges along the way. Sorry does allow for challenges to cultural clashes. Money being something that culturally just does not compute into the way of life the original inhabitants need to be one with their world. Understanding the divide between what is today and what was yesterdays boundaries is a balancing act. One that usually is seen as a economical challenge and that to both parties is a frustration point. The diplomatic lessons learned is that people ignore the generational ties from original countries often centuries in the making.
There is then a building of one aspect and a clash between the inhabitants of the world. Some seeing the world as an economic ‘money in the bank’ for them while others see the world through non-monetary success.
Given that all people need a life of their dreams to reach for, understanding how is that going to help the autistic traits within a person be behavior modified to cope with the development needed to cross that bridge? People all ages are passing on their wisdom. Technology of today has become the tool for an inter-generational, cultural cohesive transition bridge. Politics, like marketing, need people who are diplomatic. Do you have what it takes to take on-board diplomacy lessons and become a transition diplomat?